Published on October 23rd 2024
Written by Jesse Driessen
Medical gaslighting refers to the experience of having your symptoms, concerns, or medical conditions dismissed, minimized, or explained away by a healthcare professional. Rather than receiving validation or adequate care, patients experiencing medical gaslighting may hear phrases like:
This can leave patients feeling invalidated and can delay necessary treatment. Medical gaslighting can be subtle, often framed as concern or a professional’s attempt to calm a patient. But for those living with complex or chronic conditions, this dismissal can have serious consequences on their health and well-being.
This issue is particularly prevalent among women, who may face biases that result in their pain being underestimated or overlooked. A staggering 72% of Millennial Females report feeling that their doctor ignored, dismissed, or minimized their health concerns. In the same study, 66% of women reported that they had been told by a doctor that their physical symptoms were simply due to stress.
As a result, medical gaslighting can have a detrimental effect on how women are treated by healthcare professionals. For example, women reportedly receive 25% fewer painkillers in emergency rooms compared to men, which underscores the systemic issues in how their pain is perceived and treated.
Medical gaslighting can occur for a number of reasons, including:
The effects of medical gaslighting can be devastating. Patients may start to doubt their own experiences, delay seeking further medical advice, or stop advocating for themselves altogether. This can lead to worsening symptoms, mental health challenges, and even long-term physical health damage.
For example, a person suffering from chronic pain might feel compelled to downplay their discomfort after repeated dismissals, leading to missed diagnoses or lack of access to effective treatment. The cumulative effect of being gaslit over time can make patients feel like they aren’t worthy of care or that their symptoms aren’t legitimate.
If you suspect you’ve been a victim of medical gaslighting, don’t give up hope. There are ways to reclaim control during your medical appointments and advocate for the care you deserve. Here are some practical strategies to consider:
One of the best ways to counteract gaslighting is to keep a detailed record of your symptoms. Apps like Bearable can be extremely helpful for tracking symptoms, medication, lifestyle factors, and mood. Having this data at your fingertips makes it easier to provide a clear, evidence-based picture of your health to your doctor.
Example: If you experience migraines, note the time, severity, and potential triggers of each episode. If a doctor tries to brush off your concerns, you can pull up the data to demonstrate a pattern or worsening trend.
If you feel your symptoms are being dismissed, ask your doctor to explain their reasoning in detail. This forces them to engage more deeply with your case and can prevent the all-too-common “You’re just stressed” response.
Example: Rather than accepting a vague answer, ask something like, “What tests or diagnostic steps are we missing to rule out other conditions?” or “Can you explain why you believe stress is the primary cause of my symptoms?”
Having a close friend or family member in the room can help you feel more confident in advocating for yourself. A support person can help you remember key points of the conversation, validate your concerns, and even speak up if they feel your symptoms are being ignored.
Example: If you’re nervous about confronting a dismissive doctor, bring a friend or family member who can back you up if your concerns are minimized.
If you feel unheard or dismissed by your doctor, don’t hesitate to seek out a second opinion. Sometimes, a fresh perspective from a different healthcare provider can be invaluable.
Example: If you’ve been told your fatigue is due to anxiety but feel there’s something more going on, seeing a specialist or another doctor who is more familiar with your condition can provide new insights.
It can be hard to speak up when you’re being gaslit, but it’s essential to clearly express your concerns. Be assertive about what you need from your doctor and how you expect them to support your care.
Example: If your pain is being dismissed, you could say, “I need you to take my pain seriously because it’s affecting my daily life. I would like further testing or a referral to a specialist.”
One of the most damaging aspects of medical gaslighting is how it can make patients doubt their own experiences. Trust yourself. You are the expert on your body. If something feels wrong, it likely is, and you deserve to have that explored and validated.
Example: Remind yourself that just because one doctor didn’t take your symptoms seriously doesn’t mean you’re imagining them. Trust in your lived experience and continue seeking answers until you find a healthcare professional who listens.
While it’s difficult to prevent bias entirely, here are a few proactive steps you can take to minimize the likelihood of medical gaslighting:
Medical gaslighting can be a deeply frustrating and disheartening experience, but you’re not alone and you don’t have to tolerate it. By documenting your symptoms, asking pointed questions, and seeking second opinions, you can reclaim control over your healthcare. Remember, you deserve to be listened to and taken seriously. The more you advocate for yourself, the better your chances of receiving the care you need.
“Bearable is helpful for me, especially before I go into a doctor’s appointment or a specialist doctor’s appointment. Using the app it’s easier for me to get an overview of, like, how many days per month my symptoms have occurred. Breaking that down by symptom, and also across my overall symptoms, has been helpful for me. It’s been helpful for me with my mental health and working with my therapist to keep track of my mood each month, like seeing if I have a higher amount of sad days.
Gina, Bearable member
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